Is it possible to get out of friendzone? Yes, It's Possible! (Learn How to Make Her Chase You)

Do you keep going through the same problem over and over again? 

You get almost no attention from girls, and the moment a girl looks at you, you instantly form an obsession over her. 

You just can't help but to chase the woman you're into. 

But what if there was a way we could get the girls to chase you?

Personal Experience:

I have had very similar experiences when it comes to girls. I can remember a few years back, back in high school. There was a girl that I was in geometry class with. She was very beautiful, and I had this huge crush on her. I would constantly be thinking about her every single day, even outside of school. But I never actually told her how I felt about her, and I never really even talked to her at all. I was literally obsessing over this girl and chasing after her in a sense.

Shift in Perspective:

But then came one day. I was just scrolling through Instagram on my phone, chilling at my house, and I came across her Instagram post. I saw that she got in a relationship with some other guy. When I observed the guys that girls were actually getting with, it made me realize that I was going about things the wrong way. While I was chasing the girl and she was constantly moving away from me, and when I was constantly thinking about her every single day, it became clear to me that the guy who was getting her wasn't really thinking about her at all.

Contrasting Approaches:

Most of the guys that seemed good with girls and who would get these girls when I was 16, 17, 18 years old had this aura about them of not really caring about the girls. They didn't care so much about whether they got the girl or not. Meanwhile, I was a guy who was really caring about her, and I never got her.

Challenging Conditioning:

It made me realize at this point when I was 17, 18 years old that maybe you have even realized by now, all the movies and propaganda that preach that I should be the guy that really cares about her, that asks about her hobbies, and takes interest in her. I ended up realizing that that advice was garbage because the guys that are getting the girls aren't taking and following this advice of asking about her interests.

Changing the Dynamic:

The guys who are getting the girls were usually quite confident and even a little bit arrogant—the traits that the women tell us that aren't attractive, yet they're attracted to those guys with those traits. When I was following the blue pill script of really caring about her and doing as much as possible for her, I was chasing someone who was running away from me. Well, where was she running to? She was chasing the guy who was chasing something else.

Self-Reflection:

That's probably what's happened to you many times. Maybe it's even happening right now with a girl that you're interacting with or you're interested in. Just stop chasing her for a minute, bro, and listen to my words. If you really just stop and look at the situation that you're in, you'll see that you're going towards her while she's going away. You keep going towards her, and she keeps going away. Wouldn't it be nice though if we could just flip that around? Where she's going towards you, but you're going away, where you're chasing something else—your fitness, your business, your goals—and she's chasing you while you're chasing those things.

Desire for Change:

Sure, while you're chasing those things, you can stop for a minute, spend some time with her, you know, maybe even—okay, let me stop. Generally, it's men chasing women instead of women chasing men. We'd prefer girls chasing us. The way to get there, though, is difficult because you have to let go of these old conditioned beliefs that are inside of you.

Recovery from the "Nice Guy" Syndrome:

As someone who recovered from the blue pill nice guy, what I'm about to say most people will probably disagree with because everything that you've believed about attracting girls is going to disagree with what I'm about to say. You are here today reading this article because you haven't gotten the results that you wanted. You keep having to chase the girl, and it goes nowhere.

Making a Girl Chase You:

This is how to make a girl chase you. Step one, you have to be attractive in many different ways. I'm talking about being physically attractive, being attractive with your energy so that you can flirt without being awkward and feeling awkward. You can get to that point by having more practice and being around more girls. Also, try to shoot your shot in a sexy way instead of a needy energy way. You don't want to come across as needy; being needy is one of the ugliest things that you can do as a guy.

Overcoming Neediness:

How do we destroy this neediness? If you can stop being needy for girls, they will start to need you; they will want to chase you. There are really like two ways to destroy neediness that I'm going to go over real quick. Sure, there are other ways, but I'm just going to explain two quick ways.

Approaches to Destroying Neediness:

The first way is you get an abundance of women, and that can take a while to get to that point. So eventually, you can get there. The second way is we can fake it. Fake it till you make it. 

We can actually reprogram our brain to stop being needy, in a silly way, in a sense. We can make ourselves believe that we have tons of women that are into us, so we don't have to be needy for them. 

This was something I did actually at age 19 after my first breakup, my first relationship that ended badly, and while I was continuing to be unsuccessful with girls.

Psychological Shift:

Sure, some practical things you can do is go to the gym, you know, do this, do that, and that's all great stuff and that's nice. 

But guess what? 

What I did was psychological. I saw myself as a different person all of my life. 

I saw myself as a guy who really wanted to get girls and who obsessed over girls all the time. 

I saw myself as the guy that girls left on red because that's what was actually happening.

Transformation to the "Alpha Male":

But when I really changed it for myself, and this is going to sound pretty cringe probably, I started to see myself more as the alpha male, as the perfect guy. I brainwashed myself to make myself believe that I was the alpha male. At 19, 20 years old, I was doing this. That's when attracting girls started to work. I started having more interactions with girls. It may sound silly, but this is what changed it all for me. This helped ingrain a new personality in me where I ended up and I was acting like the guys who actually get girls.

Actionable Advice:

When a girl would Snapchat me or, you know, text me, I didn't really get all excited and, you know, jump for joy like I used to. I didn't really care anymore because I'm the alpha male. I get tons of girls. Acting in that way made me attractive to women. But what is really important to mention also is that I was already doing a bunch of self-improvement things. I was going to the gym to build a more attractive body for myself and so I could feel more confident. I was reading books. I was being more sociable with my friends and just with, you know, girls in general.

Results of Personal Growth:

To make a girl chase you is really as easy as changing and faking your new personality to the guy that gets the girls; you know that guy already. He's in your school; he's in your workplace; you see him on social media. Simply act more like him. This will definitely probably offend a lot of people reading this because I'm telling you to copy a guy that's good with girls. People online don't like the answer to copy someone that you want to be like. Act more like the guy that you want to be.

Embracing Change:

Anyone who's been successful in any endeavor or anything in life knows that this is the way to do it. If there is someone that has the results that you want in whatever it is, imitate them. Look at what they're doing, figure out what is working for them, and imitate them. Start to implement that into your own life. Thousands of people have done it; all the successful people have done it from the people that were successful before them. 

People like to say, "Oh, I'm so unique, and I don't need to copy anyone." 

Well, then be unique and be lonely while doing so. I didn't want to be like that. I didn't want to struggle with girls for the rest of my life and be lonely all the time.

Learning from Success:

I saw the guys who were successful with girls; I saw the things online that help guys be successful with girls, and I started doing those things. It's that simple. 

I hope you guys enjoyed the article, and if you did make it through the whole article, I really appreciate you. Thanks for sticking around. Hopefully, this can shed some light on chasing girls and how to have them chase you in a sense, so you're not running after them all the time. 

Remember, it's about becoming the best version of yourself, attracting people with your authenticity, and letting go of the neediness that holds you back.