10 Fatherly Lessons You NEEDED : When You were a Boy

Did you grow up with a strong father? 

A caring man that gave you tough love and the right guidance? 

If you did, that's a huge advantage in life. 

But most of us didn't get that blessing. 

I remember how my father didn't care about me when I was younger. 

He left us behind, and I hated him for it. 

By extension, I hated myself when I looked in the mirror because I saw his features in myself. 

I tried to deny reality, deny I was his son, but reality is very stubborn. 

No matter how much you try to deny it, 

REALITY will not change. 

So I was forced to accept it, and as a result.

I walked with self-hatred for years.

I won't share a sad story here; we all have our past. 

But I want to talk about something crucial;

The importance of a father figure.

Most guys don't know how important it is to have a strong father figure. 

They think all a father does is teach his son how to shave.

Until they grow older and life beats them down over and over again. 

That's when they realize no one taught them 

HOW TO BE A MAN ?

In this article,

I will give you 10 fatherly lessons that you need in life.

So PAY ATTENTION

Lesson Number 1: No One Cares About You

As a man, no one truly cares about you. 

No one will come to save you. 

You must become your own hero or suffer a miserable existence. 

There is no sympathy for men in this world, and the sooner you realize it, the better. 

Men shouldn't rely on sympathy anyway. 

A man that begs for sympathy is a pathetic man. 

Instead, 

Become your own hero, work extremely hard towards your goals, and as you level up, you'll notice people start to respect you.

Lesson Number 2: Use Your Trauma

As a man, you'll experience a lot of pain. 

The modern world will convince you to talk about it, to let your feelings out and seek therapy. 

That's great advice if you want to waste the gift of trauma. 

Most successful people use their insecurities, pain, and childhood trauma to accomplish miraculous things. 

Most, if not all, the great men that walk the earth have used their pain as fuel. 

So carry that pain, use it, and once you've reached your goals, then you can decide to let it go. 

Be strategic with the way you use your trauma and pain. 

Don't let it go until you've used it to your advantage first.

Lesson Number 3: Learn How to Fight

Can you throw a knockout punch? 

As a man, 

You must know how to fight because no matter who you are and what you accomplish, 

If you can't fight, everything can be taken away from you, and you won't be able to protect your loved ones. 

Deep down, 

Every man feels something is missing if he doesn't know how to fight. 

I'm not saying you need to become a pro fighter, but you have to know how to throw a punch, how to take a punch, and how to push through fatigue. 

The best way to do this is to simply walk into a fighting gym.

Lesson Number 4: Self-Discipline

Self-discipline is very essential for every human being. 

Without it, a man becomes frustrated and useless to himself. 

Discipline yourself, or you will look back when you grow old one day and regret not using your gifts during your youth.

Lesson Number 5: Understand Women

You'll see two types of guys in the modern world: 

Simps and guys that hate women. 

Both are pathetic. 

Learn about female nature, understand how women work, and your life will become 10X better. 

This world is made of men and women, and we are better together than we are apart.

Lesson Number 6: Love God

Everything you see around you is a creation, and there is a creator for all of it. 

Love and respect the creator. 

With God on your side, you gain tremendous strength. 

The interesting thing is that whenever you speak about God, people always get triggered. 

They deny the existence of God with full certainty. 

It is the most arrogant thing a human could ever do. 

Do not be that guy.

Lesson Number 7: Always Make Time for Family

Be honest, 

Do you spend enough time with your family? 

Life is short, and every family member you have will pass away sooner or later. 

So make time for your loved ones. 

It's priceless.

Lesson Number 8: Be Honorable

Honor is becoming more and more rare in the modern day and age, especially in the Western world. 

Honor seems to have little to no value. 

The reality is that an honorless man is worse than scum. 

They will do anything to win, even betray loved ones, scam others, or sell their dignity. 

A good man would rather fail than succeed by fraud because it's better to die 10,000 deaths than wound your honor.

Lesson Number 9: Learn How to Read People

One of the most useful things is the ability to read people. 

Any form of betrayal comes from a misjudgment of character. 

If you've ever been betrayed, you failed to read the other person. 

Obviously, you can never be 100% sure a person won't betray you, but once you know how to read people, you can assess a probability to every person.

Lesson Number 10: Real Friendship

Most guys have fake friends. 

The strongest bonds are built by overcoming struggle. 

You only know who your friends are when you go through a catastrophe together. 

You have to go through an actual big problem that threatens to destroy you, and then you'll know who your true friends are. 

Pick friends that match your core values.

- Masculineio